5 Ideas to Get Your Ex Back
5 Ideas to Get Your Ex Back
Relationships take work; sometimes they take a little work, and other times they take a lot of work. Each person has to be willing to work at the relationship in order for the relationship to be successful. If the work balance is uneven, things can start to get ugly pretty rapidly. A lot of times the lack of balance will lead to a breakup; most breakups leave one of the people very hurt and wanting to try to make it work. If you are the only one working to resolve a breakup and get your ex back, it can be tough. Luckily there are some things that really help the situation no matter the circumstance.
Flexibility
Always keep in mind that you are going to have to be flexible while still remaining strong. You can not start making demands of your ex... this will absolutely not help you get your ex back. Remember that your ex left because there was something in the relationship that was leaving him or her dissatisfied, and trying to demand they come back will only feed the dissatisfaction.
Strength
Being needy is one of the biggest problems during a break up. You will not get your ex back if you are constantly explaining why you need them and how you can not love without them. Independence is attractive, and can actually be a little scary for your ex to see. If he or she sees your strength, they will begin to worry that maybe you don't need them and the positions will be switched. This is a very hard concept to grasp. I know it is so easy to just try to beg and plead your ex back into the relationship, but it never works and just pushes them away.
Reduce Contact
This is another very large obstacle. The main thing you want to do is grab your phone and dial your ex's number, or send them a text message. Even if it is just to say hello, or see what they are up to. This relates back to the "Strength" concept, but reducing contact will make you appear more independent and reduce the neediness. This will also give you time to clear your head... most of the time when trying to get your ex back by calling all the time, it just adds WAY more confusion... this is not a problem if you just reduce contact very low, preferably to zero for a while.
Be Yourself
Remember back you and your ex got to together? What about all the good times you had? There was something there that drew him or her to you. It is very easy to act like a completely different person after a break up. If you want to get your ex back, you are going to need to remind them of the person they originally fell in love with.
Don't Be Alone
One of the easiest things to do after a breakup is sit around your house and eat junk food while watching TV. Forget that nonsense! That will get you nowhere in the adventure to get your ex back. You have to go out and have some fun. Hang out with your friends and family. A lot of the time friends and family get neglected when you are in a relationship and hanging out with them can bring back so many great memories and really help to clear your mind.
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